Comments on: 5 Ways to Deal with Dramatic People http://frombottomup.com/5-ways-to-deal-with-dramatic-people/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=5-ways-to-deal-with-dramatic-people Climbing The Mountain of Life Together Fri, 03 Sep 2010 21:05:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Hulbert Lee http://frombottomup.com/5-ways-to-deal-with-dramatic-people/comment-page-1/#comment-2199 Hulbert Lee Sun, 18 Apr 2010 23:29:06 +0000 http://frombottomup.com/?p=1336#comment-2199 Hi Sarah, it's good that you learned your lesson. Don't worry about them revolting against you. Try your best to continue to stay neutral; or in other words, don't feed the fire. If you continue to stay calm and cool, eventually you won't be involved in that drama because you will be focused on doing your own thing. But if you continue to feed into their fire, they will be able to create drama out of really nothing. Be like the water. Be able to flow around things instead of blocking them, and you'll feel happier. Hope that helps. And just on the side note, please use spaces between paragraphs the next time you comment. ;) Thank you. Hi Sarah, it’s good that you learned your lesson. Don’t worry about them revolting against you. Try your best to continue to stay neutral; or in other words, don’t feed the fire. If you continue to stay calm and cool, eventually you won’t be involved in that drama because you will be focused on doing your own thing. But if you continue to feed into their fire, they will be able to create drama out of really nothing.

Be like the water. Be able to flow around things instead of blocking them, and you’ll feel happier. Hope that helps. And just on the side note, please use spaces between paragraphs the next time you comment. ;) Thank you.

]]> By: sarah http://frombottomup.com/5-ways-to-deal-with-dramatic-people/comment-page-1/#comment-2196 sarah Sun, 18 Apr 2010 09:47:03 +0000 http://frombottomup.com/?p=1336#comment-2196 i think its very true when you give them a neutral response but the thing is they might revolt against you for thinking that you are just giving them a neutral response because you are not on their side or arent being supportive of them and then they get paranoid and start thinking more and more about it and cause more drama ... i have been friends with a girl in our class for quite sometime who was quite disrespectful and demeaning right from the start and she just had ended a friendship with an extremely dramatic friend of hers who also happsn to be in our class , the minute i stopped talking to that friend of mine , the dramatic girl approached me and took advantage of the fact that im "innocent " and asked me to come over to her flat where she would make me lunch and have a chit chat and all she was interested was in knowing what that other person bitched behind her back etc etc and since i was in the heat of the moment and was bitter over the other friend i told her everything and i realised that this dramatic person has just used me to cause more drama to the other person rather than genuinely interested with me but i always agree to the fact never regret becuase regretting is weakness , always have hope because having hope is strength , and the way i looked at it is never let anyone tell you what to respond to an "ex's " text , respond the way you feel like , because if you text him/her their (dramatic people) response you will end up feeling guilty and bitter over it , just follow what your heart tells you to do and you might not regret it and the way i look at that incident is even though i am not in any talking terms with that friend , i shouldnt have gone and bitched to that dramatic friend , never will that happen again :) i think its very true when you give them a neutral response but the thing is they might revolt against you for thinking that you are just giving them a neutral response because you are not on their side or arent being supportive of them and then they get paranoid and start thinking more and more about it and cause more drama … i have been friends with a girl in our class for quite sometime who was quite disrespectful and demeaning right from the start and she just had ended a friendship with an extremely dramatic friend of hers who also happsn to be in our class , the minute i stopped talking to that friend of mine , the dramatic girl approached me and took advantage of the fact that im “innocent ” and asked me to come over to her flat where she would make me lunch and have a chit chat and all she was interested was in knowing what that other person bitched behind her back etc etc and since i was in the heat of the moment and was bitter over the other friend i told her everything and i realised that this dramatic person has just used me to cause more drama to the other person rather than genuinely interested with me but i always agree to the fact never regret becuase regretting is weakness , always have hope because having hope is strength , and the way i looked at it is never let anyone tell you what to respond to an “ex’s ” text , respond the way you feel like , because if you text him/her their (dramatic people) response you will end up feeling guilty and bitter over it , just follow what your heart tells you to do and you might not regret it and the way i look at that incident is even though i am not in any talking terms with that friend , i shouldnt have gone and bitched to that dramatic friend , never will that happen again :)

]]> By: Hulbert Lee http://frombottomup.com/5-ways-to-deal-with-dramatic-people/comment-page-1/#comment-1631 Hulbert Lee Sat, 06 Mar 2010 23:37:45 +0000 http://frombottomup.com/?p=1336#comment-1631 Thank you, Patricia. I have encountered many "drama queens" in my life and sometimes the best way is the straight forward approach. My ex-girlfriend wanted to get revenge on her ex-boyfriend for being a jerk, and she was telling me the "plot" and it was sort of ridiculous. I told her that revenge on somebody else is only going to feed into the other person's drama and create more for her. I'm glad you still love your friend as it can get frustrating sometimes to deal with dramatic people. Staying calm in these types of situations will usually send off a calm energy towards the people who are either being dramatic or angry. I think it's good that you were able to pull these off and solve the conflict between your friend and your friend's son. Who do you call when you have drama? I'm guessing there's nobody to help you there because the people that surround you are full of drama themselves. :) Thanks for your wonderful comment! Thank you, Patricia. I have encountered many “drama queens” in my life and sometimes the best way is the straight forward approach. My ex-girlfriend wanted to get revenge on her ex-boyfriend for being a jerk, and she was telling me the “plot” and it was sort of ridiculous. I told her that revenge on somebody else is only going to feed into the other person’s drama and create more for her.

I’m glad you still love your friend as it can get frustrating sometimes to deal with dramatic people. Staying calm in these types of situations will usually send off a calm energy towards the people who are either being dramatic or angry. I think it’s good that you were able to pull these off and solve the conflict between your friend and your friend’s son.

Who do you call when you have drama? I’m guessing there’s nobody to help you there because the people that surround you are full of drama themselves. :) Thanks for your wonderful comment!

]]> By: Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker http://frombottomup.com/5-ways-to-deal-with-dramatic-people/comment-page-1/#comment-1628 Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker Sat, 06 Mar 2010 22:38:53 +0000 http://frombottomup.com/?p=1336#comment-1628 The straight forward approach is what works best for me. I have a best friend who I call (to her face) a Drama Queen. I tell her if she doesn't want to be known as a drama queen, then quit being one. I don't know how many times I have calmly talked her out of a scheme for revenge against someone else, usually her son and daughter-in-law. The only reason that I am still in this relationship with this friend is because she really is a good person. I dearly love her as a friend. Sometimes, even I get frustrated with her drama. Thank God, the drama isn't all the time. Calmly pointing out how all of her schemes will back fire on her usually works well. She gets angry with me for awhile because I take her son and daughter-in-law's side most of the time. For whatever reason, she usually listens to what I tell her and her anger is usually defused before we get off of the phone. I recently told her daughter-in-law that her husband owes me big-time for coming between him and his mother's anger. Most of the time that anger is totally irrational. I don't do drama myself very often but guess who I call when I do? These are very good tips on how to deal with drama queens or kings. Thanks for sharing them. The straight forward approach is what works best for me. I have a best friend who I call (to her face) a Drama Queen. I tell her if she doesn’t want to be known as a drama queen, then quit being one. I don’t know how many times I have calmly talked her out of a scheme for revenge against someone else, usually her son and daughter-in-law. The only reason that I am still in this relationship with this friend is because she really is a good person. I dearly love her as a friend. Sometimes, even I get frustrated with her drama.

Thank God, the drama isn’t all the time. Calmly pointing out how all of her schemes will back fire on her usually works well. She gets angry with me for awhile because I take her son and daughter-in-law’s side most of the time. For whatever reason, she usually listens to what I tell her and her anger is usually defused before we get off of the phone. I recently told her daughter-in-law that her husband owes me big-time for coming between him and his mother’s anger. Most of the time that anger is totally irrational. I don’t do drama myself very often but guess who I call when I do?

These are very good tips on how to deal with drama queens or kings. Thanks for sharing them.

]]> By: Meditation Weekends: Deal with Dramatic People, Reduce Email and Preven Burn Out | Meditation Rocks! http://frombottomup.com/5-ways-to-deal-with-dramatic-people/comment-page-1/#comment-1369 Meditation Weekends: Deal with Dramatic People, Reduce Email and Preven Burn Out | Meditation Rocks! Fri, 19 Feb 2010 10:31:30 +0000 http://frombottomup.com/?p=1336#comment-1369 [...] We all have people in our life who just love to create drama out of anything. And it’s so hard to be around them, let alone deal with them. But my friend, Hulbert Lee, has a great piece of advice for us on dealing with dramatic people. [...] [...] We all have people in our life who just love to create drama out of anything. And it’s so hard to be around them, let alone deal with them. But my friend, Hulbert Lee, has a great piece of advice for us on dealing with dramatic people. [...]

]]> By: Hulbert Lee http://frombottomup.com/5-ways-to-deal-with-dramatic-people/comment-page-1/#comment-1333 Hulbert Lee Wed, 17 Feb 2010 00:29:17 +0000 http://frombottomup.com/?p=1336#comment-1333 That's totally true aDeeb. Sometimes we have no choice but to live with people that cause a lot of drama; but if we see it as a learning experience, more than a struggle, we will able to be prepared to handle a lot more dramatic people that we might meet in the future. That’s totally true aDeeb. Sometimes we have no choice but to live with people that cause a lot of drama; but if we see it as a learning experience, more than a struggle, we will able to be prepared to handle a lot more dramatic people that we might meet in the future.

]]> By: aDeeb http://frombottomup.com/5-ways-to-deal-with-dramatic-people/comment-page-1/#comment-1330 aDeeb Tue, 16 Feb 2010 23:07:27 +0000 http://frombottomup.com/?p=1336#comment-1330 The last point is the best one. Problem with that is that avoiding them is not always possible. The last point is the best one.
Problem with that is that avoiding them is not always possible.

]]> By: Hulbert Lee http://frombottomup.com/5-ways-to-deal-with-dramatic-people/comment-page-1/#comment-1300 Hulbert Lee Sat, 13 Feb 2010 07:41:23 +0000 http://frombottomup.com/?p=1336#comment-1300 Hi Persha, I understand how that is. I've never had overly dramatic people at work, more obnoxious. But I've had a few dramatic friends. It really is immature though when they are dramatic and they attack you for it. The best way is just to stay neutral, mature, and professional through it. They negative energy will be brought back on them. Good luck with that. Hi Persha, I understand how that is. I’ve never had overly dramatic people at work, more obnoxious. But I’ve had a few dramatic friends. It really is immature though when they are dramatic and they attack you for it. The best way is just to stay neutral, mature, and professional through it. They negative energy will be brought back on them. Good luck with that.

]]> By: Persha -DumpedDays http://frombottomup.com/5-ways-to-deal-with-dramatic-people/comment-page-1/#comment-1297 Persha -DumpedDays Sat, 13 Feb 2010 04:21:39 +0000 http://frombottomup.com/?p=1336#comment-1297 Hi Hulbert, I’ve had some experiences with a few “dramatic” people at work! Dramatic people come in every variety and no workplace is without them!!. How difficult a person is for you to deal with depends on your self-esteem, your self-confidence and your professional courage. I guess dealing with dramatic people is easier when the person is just generally obnoxious or when the behavior affects more than one person. However, its much tougher when they are attacking you or undermining your professional contribution. Good post. cheers Persha Hi Hulbert,
I’ve had some experiences with a few “dramatic” people at work! Dramatic people come in every variety and no workplace is without them!!. How difficult a person is for you to deal with depends on your self-esteem, your self-confidence and your professional courage.

I guess dealing with dramatic people is easier when the person is just generally obnoxious or when the behavior affects more than one person. However, its much tougher when they are attacking you or undermining your professional contribution.

Good post.
cheers
Persha

]]> By: Hulbert Lee http://frombottomup.com/5-ways-to-deal-with-dramatic-people/comment-page-1/#comment-1286 Hulbert Lee Thu, 11 Feb 2010 07:27:48 +0000 http://frombottomup.com/?p=1336#comment-1286 Hi Ching Ya, nice to meet you. :) I agree that it does take patience in order to deal with dramatic people and avoiding them is a good approach to it, but sometimes we're just put in a situation where we can't. This is where positive comments to reinforce their behavior helps out. As with your blog, no problem. It looks great by the way. Hi Ching Ya, nice to meet you. :) I agree that it does take patience in order to deal with dramatic people and avoiding them is a good approach to it, but sometimes we’re just put in a situation where we can’t. This is where positive comments to reinforce their behavior helps out.

As with your blog, no problem. It looks great by the way.

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