Thanks Ivan, I’m glad you liked the advice.

Ivan

Hey John, I liked what you said and I totally agree. Respect must be earned, but it’s not too hard to do. If you work hard and you’re genuine, then people will grow to respect you more. Thank you.

Honesty, trust, and leadership are the main components to being respected. Your gym coach embodied all of these traits – that’s why you respected him the way you did.

What’s also important is that you must earn respect. Like the kid you pointed out in your scenario, you can’t just jump up and expect people to take you seriously. Show people you mean business from day one and the respect will come naturally.

Great job on the post, Tristan

I like that message. I have done that a few times, where I informed someone who I respect of my goal that related to what they were doing, and it sure did help. It also helps to make you feel like you are on the team that gets that goal completed.

As far as following through with my words, I can certainly do a better job with that, but I have improved by putting out less words to follow through on, so that I have a higher percentage of them that I maintain.

I continue to let certain folks know of certain goals I have in the way that you described here, as the advantages are worth any risks that may be in place, of looking foolish or not able to stick to one’s words.

Thanks for this.

There’s different ways to motivated people to get to their goals. Some people are motivated by their passions, others are motivated by rewards, and even others are motivated by fear.

I agree that being passionate about what you’re doing to get to your goal should be one’s main drive. But some people hate what they do e.g. an obese person trying to run three miles everyday or a person who’s trying to quit smoking.

It’s good to have an inner desire to accomplish somebody, but there are some people that don’t have these desires themselves and need the support of other people. I think by telling people you respect that you’re going to go through with somebody, it just offers an additional way to getting the job done.

I appreciate you sharing your opinion though Steven. Thank you.

And I think you are right in a way, however, it almost seems as if you are talking about achieving a certain goal because you want to gain their approval? Because otherwise they’d lose respect for you, and so you’d want to protect that for your identity.

In my opinion, goals are to be achieved for yourself and yourself only. Sure you might get scared to lose credibility and respect from others, but I don’t think motivating yourself through fear of loss of respect should be the main drive.

In fact, if that is the main drive behind your goal, then it is a goal that you really aren’t that passionate of, because if you are, you’d feel motivation to fulfill your “core’s” desire to accomplish and contribute, and not through the fear of being looked down upon by others.

But then again that is just my opinion, different things work for different people. I appreciate you writing this post for us

Steven