Comments on: Will Power – A Contradictory Concept http://frombottomup.com/will-power-%e2%80%93-a-contradictory-concept/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=will-power-%25e2%2580%2593-a-contradictory-concept Climbing The Mountain of Life Together Sat, 31 Jul 2010 19:27:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Tristan Lee http://frombottomup.com/will-power-%e2%80%93-a-contradictory-concept/comment-page-1/#comment-430 Tristan Lee Wed, 11 Nov 2009 15:55:17 +0000 http://frombottomup.com/?p=810#comment-430 Hello there. Thank you and I'm glad you it helped you out. :) Hello there. Thank you and I’m glad you it helped you out. :)

]]> By: Positively Present http://frombottomup.com/will-power-%e2%80%93-a-contradictory-concept/comment-page-1/#comment-429 Positively Present Wed, 11 Nov 2009 14:53:22 +0000 http://frombottomup.com/?p=810#comment-429 This is a great post. I love how you ended it with the word relax... that's such a great reminder for me. This is a great post. I love how you ended it with the word relax… that’s such a great reminder for me.

]]> By: Tristan Lee http://frombottomup.com/will-power-%e2%80%93-a-contradictory-concept/comment-page-1/#comment-428 Tristan Lee Wed, 11 Nov 2009 10:42:50 +0000 http://frombottomup.com/?p=810#comment-428 Hey Oscar. I think you need a bit of both. You can’t just be totally relaxed, but you can’t overwork yourself either. Thank you for your comment. Hi to you too Armen. I agree that putting less stress on ourselves near deadlines and having a balanced attitude instead of forcing or rushing things will lead to better results. Thanks for this. Hey Anastasiya. Wow, that is pretty crazy hearing it from the other side of the perspective. You provided some interesting points in your comment. Will power is still needed to do well in life, but like you said studying too hard is a reciple for disaster. Thank you for your extensive reply. Hello Belinda. You have a great point there. When we focus too much on getting the A, we miss out on the most important aspect of getting there - the studying part. Thank you. Hey Steven. Haha wow. I'm glad you can relate to me on this experience. Yes, I agree with you that when we try to force things to happen, we start to focus on the things that can possibly go wrong. If we relax, we will have more confidence in ourselves. Thanks for sharing your side of the story! Hey Oscar. I think you need a bit of both. You can’t just be totally relaxed, but you can’t overwork yourself either. Thank you for your comment.

Hi to you too Armen. I agree that putting less stress on ourselves near deadlines and having a balanced attitude instead of forcing or rushing things will lead to better results. Thanks for this.

Hey Anastasiya. Wow, that is pretty crazy hearing it from the other side of the perspective. You provided some interesting points in your comment. Will power is still needed to do well in life, but like you said studying too hard is a reciple for disaster. Thank you for your extensive reply.

Hello Belinda. You have a great point there. When we focus too much on getting the A, we miss out on the most important aspect of getting there – the studying part. Thank you.

Hey Steven. Haha wow. I’m glad you can relate to me on this experience. Yes, I agree with you that when we try to force things to happen, we start to focus on the things that can possibly go wrong. If we relax, we will have more confidence in ourselves. Thanks for sharing your side of the story!

]]> By: Steven http://frombottomup.com/will-power-%e2%80%93-a-contradictory-concept/comment-page-1/#comment-425 Steven Wed, 11 Nov 2009 07:30:03 +0000 http://frombottomup.com/?p=810#comment-425 Hey Tristan, I know exactly what you are talking about - studying too hard. I remember when I was in school and I felt exactly the same as you did. When I studied so much for a particular test, I was so hyped up and tensed up about this ONE particular thing that I couldn't even focus as a result. It was as if someone was pointing a gun to my head when I was doing the test, and that it was intolerable for me to even get one answer wrong, because I feel that I deserve perfect! I think you've hit the spot here, lack of confidence is the key to the lack of focus on the tests. Because all we are going to focus is how we ARE NOT going to do well, we are just going to focus on the mistakes on the tests instead of how to come up with solutions. As a result, we get what we focus on... Focus on how we are going to nail it, if that focus is really strong then we'll have confidence, if we have the confidence then we won't be as anxious as much. :) Thanks for sharing this experience with us Tristan. Steven Hey Tristan,

I know exactly what you are talking about – studying too hard.

I remember when I was in school and I felt exactly the same as you did. When I studied so much for a particular test, I was so hyped up and tensed up about this ONE particular thing that I couldn’t even focus as a result.

It was as if someone was pointing a gun to my head when I was doing the test, and that it was intolerable for me to even get one answer wrong, because I feel that I deserve perfect!

I think you’ve hit the spot here, lack of confidence is the key to the lack of focus on the tests. Because all we are going to focus is how we ARE NOT going to do well, we are just going to focus on the mistakes on the tests instead of how to come up with solutions. As a result, we get what we focus on…

Focus on how we are going to nail it, if that focus is really strong then we’ll have confidence, if we have the confidence then we won’t be as anxious as much. :)

Thanks for sharing this experience with us Tristan.

Steven

]]> By: Belinda Munoz http://frombottomup.com/will-power-%e2%80%93-a-contradictory-concept/comment-page-1/#comment-424 Belinda Munoz Wed, 11 Nov 2009 06:33:18 +0000 http://frombottomup.com/?p=810#comment-424 Hello Tristan. Interesting post and it sounds like you learned a lot from your experience. I think that when we focus more on getting an A, we almost always miss the point of learning. It's very much like life. If we focus more on attaining the signifiers of success (such as wealth, fame, etc.) we don't get to enjoy the process of living fully. At any rate, I'm all for relaxing when you find you're trying too hard. Hello Tristan. Interesting post and it sounds like you learned a lot from your experience. I think that when we focus more on getting an A, we almost always miss the point of learning. It’s very much like life. If we focus more on attaining the signifiers of success (such as wealth, fame, etc.) we don’t get to enjoy the process of living fully. At any rate, I’m all for relaxing when you find you’re trying too hard.

]]> By: Anastasiya http://frombottomup.com/will-power-%e2%80%93-a-contradictory-concept/comment-page-1/#comment-423 Anastasiya Wed, 11 Nov 2009 04:21:12 +0000 http://frombottomup.com/?p=810#comment-423 Hi Tristan, I found this article very interesting. When I started reading your experience with the girl I had a total flash back because I was the type of girl you were talking about :-) I never dreaded the tests because I knew I will do great no matter what. I knew that I could not fail because I knew everything that I needed to know. Regarding will power, I think that it is useful. Let's get back to the example with studying. I think that you need more will power to make yourself study when everybody else is having fun (a couple of weeks before the test). This type of studying is not so stressful and it does not drain you but you do not see that instant motivation (a test tomorrow) to drive you. Trying too hard - I agree that it's a recipe for a disaster. Everything that you do in life must be pleasurable and enjoyable. You can't be forcing yourself through every obstacle that you see in life because one day you will wake up all broken up, injured and not ready to get out of your bed. Hi Tristan, I found this article very interesting. When I started reading your experience with the girl I had a total flash back because I was the type of girl you were talking about :-) I never dreaded the tests because I knew I will do great no matter what. I knew that I could not fail because I knew everything that I needed to know.
Regarding will power, I think that it is useful. Let’s get back to the example with studying. I think that you need more will power to make yourself study when everybody else is having fun (a couple of weeks before the test). This type of studying is not so stressful and it does not drain you but you do not see that instant motivation (a test tomorrow) to drive you. Trying too hard – I agree that it’s a recipe for a disaster. Everything that you do in life must be pleasurable and enjoyable. You can’t be forcing yourself through every obstacle that you see in life because one day you will wake up all broken up, injured and not ready to get out of your bed.

]]> By: Armen Shirvanian http://frombottomup.com/will-power-%e2%80%93-a-contradictory-concept/comment-page-1/#comment-422 Armen Shirvanian Tue, 10 Nov 2009 21:10:37 +0000 http://frombottomup.com/?p=810#comment-422 Hi to you Tristan. That sure is one of those experiences you don't forget when you hear something like that from someone who did better on a test. You are right that things are probably being approached the wrong way if they require us to deal with them in too hard of a fashion. The folks that keep doing things smoothly, and put less stress on themselves near deadlines, get almost double the success because they get solid results with a balanced attitude. We sure have to keep our focus on being that way, as opposed to wanting to push through mainly when the walls start to show up. Relevant example here, and we can take some good from it for how to flow through activities. Hi to you Tristan.

That sure is one of those experiences you don’t forget when you hear something like that from someone who did better on a test.

You are right that things are probably being approached the wrong way if they require us to deal with them in too hard of a fashion. The folks that keep doing things smoothly, and put less stress on themselves near deadlines, get almost double the success because they get solid results with a balanced attitude. We sure have to keep our focus on being that way, as opposed to wanting to push through mainly when the walls start to show up.

Relevant example here, and we can take some good from it for how to flow through activities.

]]> By: Oscar - freestyle mind http://frombottomup.com/will-power-%e2%80%93-a-contradictory-concept/comment-page-1/#comment-421 Oscar - freestyle mind Tue, 10 Nov 2009 17:51:26 +0000 http://frombottomup.com/?p=810#comment-421 Hey Tristan! That's a very interesting experience. When I went to school I did not study a lot because I wasn't that interested but I remember some people who studied hard to get the max result, and they almost never had it. Maybe relax is helpful because your brain has more tie to digest all the new information. Hey Tristan! That’s a very interesting experience. When I went to school I did not study a lot because I wasn’t that interested but I remember some people who studied hard to get the max result, and they almost never had it. Maybe relax is helpful because your brain has more tie to digest all the new information.

]]> By: Tristan Lee http://frombottomup.com/will-power-%e2%80%93-a-contradictory-concept/comment-page-1/#comment-419 Tristan Lee Tue, 10 Nov 2009 14:51:39 +0000 http://frombottomup.com/?p=810#comment-419 Hi Amit. Yes, I have learned that not amount of will power through studying days right before a test will be a magic cure. Her strategy was to spread out the studying so she could have time to study later. We both did some cram studying in college, thus we both share something in common. :) Hi Amit. Yes, I have learned that not amount of will power through studying days right before a test will be a magic cure. Her strategy was to spread out the studying so she could have time to study later. We both did some cram studying in college, thus we both share something in common. :)

]]> By: Amit Sodha - The Power Of Choice http://frombottomup.com/will-power-%e2%80%93-a-contradictory-concept/comment-page-1/#comment-418 Amit Sodha - The Power Of Choice Tue, 10 Nov 2009 14:04:51 +0000 http://frombottomup.com/?p=810#comment-418 I can see where you're coming from I can relate. I was in a similar situation recently when I was doing stand-up comedy. I'd left my preparations late and although I did well, I know if I'd prepared sooner and allowed that time to relax before hand it would have been much better. It was a terrible habit I had at school too in that I always used to study last minute and that's why I ended up dropping out - from the pressure I'd always put on myself. Did you find out from the girl what her strategy was? Did you plan all her studying to allow for the extra time to relax beforehand? I can see where you’re coming from I can relate. I was in a similar situation recently when I was doing stand-up comedy. I’d left my preparations late and although I did well, I know if I’d prepared sooner and allowed that time to relax before hand it would have been much better.

It was a terrible habit I had at school too in that I always used to study last minute and that’s why I ended up dropping out – from the pressure I’d always put on myself.

Did you find out from the girl what her strategy was? Did you plan all her studying to allow for the extra time to relax beforehand?

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